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NASFAT COUNSELING

Insights from Counselors and Scholars

  1. Marriage as a Spiritual Partnership: Scholars often remind couples that marriage is not just a union of two individuals but a spiritual partnership aimed at attaining Allah’s pleasure. Dr. Aisha Adetula, a renowned family and relationship coach, emphasizes that couples should view their marriage as a means of strengthening their deen (faith). She advises that acts like praying together, reciting Quran, and encouraging each other in acts of worship build both spiritual and emotional intimacy.

  2. Understanding Differences: According to Professor Adisa Rahmat Adetutu, a marriage counselor and academic, many conflicts arise from the inability to understand and accept differences. She recommends that couples practice active listening and approach their spouse with empathy, bearing in mind that men and women may process emotions and challenges differently.

  3. The Importance of Counseling: Islamic counselors stress the need for premarital and marital counseling to equip couples with tools to navigate their journey. Imam Saheed Adekunle highlights that counseling helps couples set realistic expectations, address underlying issues, and build strong foundations for their marriage.

  4. Role of Sabr (Patience): Dr. Sulaimon Ogunmuyiwa shares that patience is one of the most vital qualities in a successful marriage. He explains that challenges are inevitable but can be overcome with reliance on Allah, mutual respect, and perseverance. He reminds couples to seek Allah’s help through prayer during difficult times.

  5. Creating a Safe Space: Alhaji Abdulwasiu Ayoola, General Manager of HAVEK Leadership Academy, underscores the importance of creating a safe and supportive environment at home. He advises that couples practice emotional vulnerability by sharing their fears, hopes, and dreams with each other without judgment.

  6. Community Support: Scholars also emphasize the role of community in supporting marriages. Building relationships with other Muslim couples who share similar values can provide guidance, encouragement, and accountability. Workshops, seminars, and community events are excellent opportunities for couples to learn and grow.