{"id":1260,"date":"2025-01-28T13:09:18","date_gmt":"2025-01-28T13:09:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/nasfatcounseling.org\/matchup\/?p=1260"},"modified":"2025-01-28T13:11:04","modified_gmt":"2025-01-28T13:11:04","slug":"insights-from-counselors-and-scholars","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/nasfatcounseling.org\/matchup\/insights-from-counselors-and-scholars\/","title":{"rendered":"Insights from Counselors and Scholars"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"1260\" class=\"elementor elementor-1260\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-365a0bc0 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"365a0bc0\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-45bf3d5c elementor-widget elementor-widget-tl-post-title\" data-id=\"45bf3d5c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" 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Dr. Aisha Adetula, a renowned family and relationship coach, emphasizes that couples should view their marriage as a means of strengthening their deen (faith). She advises that acts like praying together, reciting Quran, and encouraging each other in acts of worship build both spiritual and emotional intimacy.<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><br \/><\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Understanding Differences:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> According to Professor Adisa Rahmat Adetutu, a marriage counselor and academic, many conflicts arise from the inability to understand and accept differences. She recommends that couples practice active listening and approach their spouse with empathy, bearing in mind that men and women may process emotions and challenges differently.<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><br \/><\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>The Importance of Counseling:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Islamic counselors stress the need for premarital and marital counseling to equip couples with tools to navigate their journey. Imam Saheed Adekunle highlights that counseling helps couples set realistic expectations, address underlying issues, and build strong foundations for their marriage.<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><br \/><\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Role of Sabr (Patience):<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Dr. Sulaimon Ogunmuyiwa shares that patience is one of the most vital qualities in a successful marriage. He explains that challenges are inevitable but can be overcome with reliance on Allah, mutual respect, and perseverance. He reminds couples to seek Allah\u2019s help through prayer during difficult times.<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><br \/><\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Creating a Safe Space:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Alhaji Abdulwasiu Ayoola, General Manager of HAVEK Leadership Academy, underscores the importance of creating a safe and supportive environment at home. He advises that couples practice emotional vulnerability by sharing their fears, hopes, and dreams with each other without judgment.<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><br \/><\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Community Support:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Scholars also emphasize the role of community in supporting marriages. Building relationships with other Muslim couples who share similar values can provide guidance, encouragement, and accountability. Workshops, seminars, and community events are excellent opportunities for couples to learn and grow.<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><br \/><\/span><\/li><\/ol>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-68dab139 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"68dab139\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Islamic counselors and scholars have long provided invaluable wisdom on how to navigate the complexities of marital life. 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